These days Bella clings to me like white on rice. If I'm around her daddy has to work for his affection. She is going through a phase and Tommy gets the brunt of it sometimes.
I try to remember the times when I wanted my mommy so much it hurt. But, my situation was different and my dad visited with me without my mom around so he was the sole affection provider for a time before he met my stepmother.
When I think of the affection I have for my dad now and since I can remember, it is totally different than that for my mother. He is the smartest, strongest man alive and he has certainly earned my respect and admiration. I listen closely to him when he speaks and I watch his non-verbals to read how he reacts to certain things. But I didn't share every intimate detail of my life with him, I went to my mom to talk and cry or complain.
Bottom line, I think he is being set up here. He is being set up for what life is like with a daughter. I know at this age there aren't too many details about Bella that he doesn't know but that will change. Life with her daddy will be a different world that sometimes coincides with her life with mommy.
Tommy has said that when I'm not around Bella behaves differently and for the most part better than she does for me when Tommy's not around. She patiently rides in carriages when out with Tommy and for me, she may sit for a while then screams and tries to jump out or swirls around and throws a fit. She rides in her car seat with a smile and talks or sings songs when with her daddy.
For the longest time I dreaded every trip, even the shortest ones, because she screeched at me for buckling her up.
Pleasant memories (shiver).
She has gotten better about being in the car with me. We have a lot more fun on trips and at stores than ever before. And, Tommy enjoys her very much even when she's denying him a kiss or hug. He still finds a way to steal it.
It's so sweet to see him vying for his girl's affection knowing that kiss is sweet enough to beg for.
He's right and I hope he never stops because as soon as he does, Bella will wonder why.
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